You graduated from college and you learned enough to land you the career of your dreams. So why does it feel like you never learned anything about the reality of relationships and why does dating oftentimes seem like a relentless search for a job. You’re young and accomplished but you’re still single. Why? Truth is, even the smartest men can fall to loneliness. Below are some simple tips to help you graduate magna cum laude from the dating school of hard knocks and get on track to a well-deserved promotion in the dating scene!
Hey, Good Looking!
You’ve got it going on. Now dress the part—every time! This doesn’t mean you have to wear a suit while gassing up your car or wear your designer shoes while walking the dog—but you should make an effort to dress decently each time you go out. Hit the town with a clean shave, fresh clothes and why not dab on a little cologne. If you only deck yourself out for bars and parties, you’re missing out on the majority of eligible women. The reality is that chance-encounters can happen anywhere.
Maybe you’re already chatting with someone and you’ve taken your date from online to in-person, or maybe you’re already in a relationship. The same advice goes for you as well. Show that you take some initiative in how you look and present yourself. Trust me, your leading lady will appreciate it!
Gaze of Glory
When meeting someone for the first time whom you have an interest in, make sure to maintain strong eye contact. Intensify the gaze by looking deep into her pupils. The goal is to lock eyes and keep them affixed on her—and let it be know that even if Miss Universe walked in and sat right next to you, you wouldn’t notice. Of course, you don’t want to stare in a way that creeps her out or makes her feel uncomfortable, but you do want to build a personal connection and keep her hooked with the attention you are paying her.
A few years back, I took a meditation and mind course at the university I attended, in which we did an exercise where we had to hold eye contact for a few minutes with the person sitting next to us. My partner was this man, who while not attractive at first glance, suddenly became attractive! There was something romantic and sexual about staring deeply into a stranger’s eyes. It evokes a feeling of getting to know them, without having to say a word.
Make use of bedroom eyes, as research shows dilated pupils are more attractive. Enlarge your pupils by gazing at the most attractive parts of a woman’s face and think of loving thoughts. Your pupils will grow and so will the attraction!
Ask Away
Nothing to say? Never that! Asking questions can be the primer of the first phone call before the date or they can be used to continue the “getting to know you” process when you finally meet face-to-face. There are different types of questions you can ask. There are conversation primers, which get things rolling—such as questions on family or work. There are “looking deeper” questions, which get beneath the surface, which may involve asking hypothetical questions. Personal questions address the heart and soul of who we are and consist of questions on love and dating. Lastly, there are probing questions, which really get to the core of our thoughts, habits, attitudes and more.
Men like to talk facts—it’s in their nature. Stock figures, news, sports and the like are man-talk, so save that conversation for your buds. Women enjoy sharing opinions and talking about their feelings. So adjust the conversation accordingly. While you are talking to a woman you are interested in, try listening for seemingly unusual phrases she may say. Then have her expand on it by asking her things like:
“What’s the story behind that?”
“How do you feel about it?”
Sensitive open-ended questions open the area for worthwhile conversation!
You’re young, successful, with a stellar résumé to boot. With your newfound knowledge, there are now more bullet points to put on that “Dating CV” of yours:
·Master of Science in Chemistry (of Love)
·Knowledge in dating algorithms
·Experience in building relationship infrastructure
·Fluent in Romance Languages
·Certified heartthrob!
Hey, Good Looking!
You’ve got it going on. Now dress the part—every time! This doesn’t mean you have to wear a suit while gassing up your car or wear your designer shoes while walking the dog—but you should make an effort to dress decently each time you go out. Hit the town with a clean shave, fresh clothes and why not dab on a little cologne. If you only deck yourself out for bars and parties, you’re missing out on the majority of eligible women. The reality is that chance-encounters can happen anywhere.
Maybe you’re already chatting with someone and you’ve taken your date from online to in-person, or maybe you’re already in a relationship. The same advice goes for you as well. Show that you take some initiative in how you look and present yourself. Trust me, your leading lady will appreciate it!
Gaze of Glory
When meeting someone for the first time whom you have an interest in, make sure to maintain strong eye contact. Intensify the gaze by looking deep into her pupils. The goal is to lock eyes and keep them affixed on her—and let it be know that even if Miss Universe walked in and sat right next to you, you wouldn’t notice. Of course, you don’t want to stare in a way that creeps her out or makes her feel uncomfortable, but you do want to build a personal connection and keep her hooked with the attention you are paying her.
A few years back, I took a meditation and mind course at the university I attended, in which we did an exercise where we had to hold eye contact for a few minutes with the person sitting next to us. My partner was this man, who while not attractive at first glance, suddenly became attractive! There was something romantic and sexual about staring deeply into a stranger’s eyes. It evokes a feeling of getting to know them, without having to say a word.
Make use of bedroom eyes, as research shows dilated pupils are more attractive. Enlarge your pupils by gazing at the most attractive parts of a woman’s face and think of loving thoughts. Your pupils will grow and so will the attraction!
Ask Away
Nothing to say? Never that! Asking questions can be the primer of the first phone call before the date or they can be used to continue the “getting to know you” process when you finally meet face-to-face. There are different types of questions you can ask. There are conversation primers, which get things rolling—such as questions on family or work. There are “looking deeper” questions, which get beneath the surface, which may involve asking hypothetical questions. Personal questions address the heart and soul of who we are and consist of questions on love and dating. Lastly, there are probing questions, which really get to the core of our thoughts, habits, attitudes and more.
Men like to talk facts—it’s in their nature. Stock figures, news, sports and the like are man-talk, so save that conversation for your buds. Women enjoy sharing opinions and talking about their feelings. So adjust the conversation accordingly. While you are talking to a woman you are interested in, try listening for seemingly unusual phrases she may say. Then have her expand on it by asking her things like:
“What’s the story behind that?”
“How do you feel about it?”
Sensitive open-ended questions open the area for worthwhile conversation!
You’re young, successful, with a stellar résumé to boot. With your newfound knowledge, there are now more bullet points to put on that “Dating CV” of yours:
·Master of Science in Chemistry (of Love)
·Knowledge in dating algorithms
·Experience in building relationship infrastructure
·Fluent in Romance Languages
·Certified heartthrob!