When it comes to love, there are no rules. However, when it comes to making a relationship work, there are dating tips that are tried and true. You don’t want to scare off the woman of your dreams in the beginning of your relationship because you said the wrong thing. For example, a statement like “the girl I was with the other night loved that move” will definitely get you blacklisted from her life. One wrong move and you could get the boot. All it takes is knowledge of a few simple do’s and don’ts to start your relationship on the right foot. Read on to find out how!
Zip it
Do not share excessive details about your dating past. There will always be a point in any relationship in which your girlfriend will want to know more. Best advice is to not disclose the details, unless it is necessary and relevant to a larger issue of your relationship. The past is the past, so leave it there. If she is the future, pursue her in the here and now and leave out any mention of your old dating triumphs and debacles; especially sleazy stories. Trust me, she’ll appreciate it.
True story: I was at a carnival with an ex of mine (note emphasis on the word “ex”) and we were on the ferris wheel. Thinking it was nice up there in the air, with no one able to view us at the uppermost level, I told him how romantic I thought it was. What happened next was an epic fail on his part. My statement triggered a story of his past because he proceeded to tell me a sexy narrative of him and his ex on a ferris wheel. Did he think that would impress me or put me in the mood for some loving? As you could imagine, the next moments consisted of:
1) Awkward silence
2) Him not getting cozy with me on that ride (or ever)
3) Getting the hell out of there as soon as the ride ended
You’re Beautiful
Compliment her and make her feel special. The old fashioned compliment can never go wrong if done correctly. If she looks particularly gorgeous, reinforce it by telling her. Compliments don’t revolve around just physical attributes either. If she cooked you a meal that could beat the Iron Chef, let her know how superb her culinary skills are. If she rocked your world, tell her how sexy she is. If she is the funniest girl you’ve ever met, praise her on her wit. Compliment her when the situation calls for it, otherwise if you compliment her excessively, she’ll think you’re simply trying to flatter her to get something you want or that your words aren’t sincere.
Lead-Her of the Pack
If you know that you are not interested or that things aren’t working, do not lead her on. Know when to walk away. If you’re unsure as to whether a relationship is working, that’s a cue that it probably isn’t. Don’t date for the sake of dating or stay in a relationship only because you’ve grown “comfortable.” Know what you want and find it—if it’s not her, then let her down gently. See my article on How to Tactfully End a Date Gone Wrong.
Keep Your Eyes on the Prize
Do not discuss or look at other women while with your new lady. I’m not telling you to never look at other women (because we all know, men do take notice of other attractive females). However, this is how to approach the situation: if you notice a pretty gal, don’t ogle her like the single you would do. Focus your attention on your date or girlfriend. And whatever you do, do not say anything about other girls that would make her jealous in any way. If there’s a new, hot secretary at work, she doesn’t need to know. (Please revert back to the first tip titled Zip it). There is a reason why you’re dating her, so focus on the pretty young thing (PYT) right by your side!
Slow Down, Buddy!
Take your time and don’t rush things. In your car, you probably like to ride fast. You like the adrenaline of the chase and you love hugging the curves of the road as you get closer to the finish line. When it comes to relationships, you need to pump the breaks. Let the relationship grow organically and develop at it’s own pace. Never pressure her to do anything she isn’t ready for and don’t assume that things will happen on a timetable. Take the time to enjoy each other’s company and enjoy the ride along the way!
Now that you’ve gotten these timeless tricks down, use them in your dating adventures. But remember, hex the ex, commend your lady-friend, mandate to end the date, do not stare over there, and don’t rush the relationship stuff. Let me know how it goes!
Zip it
Do not share excessive details about your dating past. There will always be a point in any relationship in which your girlfriend will want to know more. Best advice is to not disclose the details, unless it is necessary and relevant to a larger issue of your relationship. The past is the past, so leave it there. If she is the future, pursue her in the here and now and leave out any mention of your old dating triumphs and debacles; especially sleazy stories. Trust me, she’ll appreciate it.
True story: I was at a carnival with an ex of mine (note emphasis on the word “ex”) and we were on the ferris wheel. Thinking it was nice up there in the air, with no one able to view us at the uppermost level, I told him how romantic I thought it was. What happened next was an epic fail on his part. My statement triggered a story of his past because he proceeded to tell me a sexy narrative of him and his ex on a ferris wheel. Did he think that would impress me or put me in the mood for some loving? As you could imagine, the next moments consisted of:
1) Awkward silence
2) Him not getting cozy with me on that ride (or ever)
3) Getting the hell out of there as soon as the ride ended
You’re Beautiful
Compliment her and make her feel special. The old fashioned compliment can never go wrong if done correctly. If she looks particularly gorgeous, reinforce it by telling her. Compliments don’t revolve around just physical attributes either. If she cooked you a meal that could beat the Iron Chef, let her know how superb her culinary skills are. If she rocked your world, tell her how sexy she is. If she is the funniest girl you’ve ever met, praise her on her wit. Compliment her when the situation calls for it, otherwise if you compliment her excessively, she’ll think you’re simply trying to flatter her to get something you want or that your words aren’t sincere.
Lead-Her of the Pack
If you know that you are not interested or that things aren’t working, do not lead her on. Know when to walk away. If you’re unsure as to whether a relationship is working, that’s a cue that it probably isn’t. Don’t date for the sake of dating or stay in a relationship only because you’ve grown “comfortable.” Know what you want and find it—if it’s not her, then let her down gently. See my article on How to Tactfully End a Date Gone Wrong.
Keep Your Eyes on the Prize
Do not discuss or look at other women while with your new lady. I’m not telling you to never look at other women (because we all know, men do take notice of other attractive females). However, this is how to approach the situation: if you notice a pretty gal, don’t ogle her like the single you would do. Focus your attention on your date or girlfriend. And whatever you do, do not say anything about other girls that would make her jealous in any way. If there’s a new, hot secretary at work, she doesn’t need to know. (Please revert back to the first tip titled Zip it). There is a reason why you’re dating her, so focus on the pretty young thing (PYT) right by your side!
Slow Down, Buddy!
Take your time and don’t rush things. In your car, you probably like to ride fast. You like the adrenaline of the chase and you love hugging the curves of the road as you get closer to the finish line. When it comes to relationships, you need to pump the breaks. Let the relationship grow organically and develop at it’s own pace. Never pressure her to do anything she isn’t ready for and don’t assume that things will happen on a timetable. Take the time to enjoy each other’s company and enjoy the ride along the way!
Now that you’ve gotten these timeless tricks down, use them in your dating adventures. But remember, hex the ex, commend your lady-friend, mandate to end the date, do not stare over there, and don’t rush the relationship stuff. Let me know how it goes!